Category: Relationship Counseling

When worry becomes a problem

Feeling afraid about life issues is common as you age, but if it takes over your life, you may have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). Everyone feels afraid or worried at times, but if these feelings begin to take ov... Read more

Having A Vivid Imagination With OCD

At the heart of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) are the intrusive, often distressing, thoughts. My skin is dirty… I must have left the gas on and my house will burn down… But why do some obsessive thoughts co... Read more

Am I the worst for looking at other people’s texts on the subway?

Imagine being eaten by a cave bear. Or a saber-toothed cat. Imagine, with that first gash of claw or incisor, instantaneously transitioning from being a person to being food. Imagine what it feels like, the first, dang... Read more

Nobody’s Better Than You

Many years ago, when I was young and things didn’t go my way, my mother used to look at me with a fierce and piteous expression and tell me: “Nobody’s better than you.” My mother is the granddaughter of Je... Read more

Why Your Brain Has Trouble Bailing Out Of A Bad Plan

You're in your car, heading for an intersection. The light turns yellow, so you decide to hit the gas. Then you see a police car. Almost instantly, you know that stomping on the accelerator is a big mistake. But t... Read more

Lonely? Short of friends? Try looking at it differently

Psychologists are regularly berated for spending their workdays reaching blindingly obvious conclusions about the world – an accusation that isn’t entirely unwarranted. (My favourite recent finding comes from the jou... Read more

Saving Lives Via Text Message

Elisheva Adler was 20 years old, sitting in pajamas in her childhood bedroom in Long Island, the first time she saved someone's life via text message. Adler had just started volunteering as a counselor for Crisis ... Read more

Are our dreams trying to tell us something?

What are dreams for? It’s one of those bottomless questions where the answer tells you mainly about the person doing the answering. Those who pride themselves on being hard-headed and scientific will say they’re ... Read more

Do Intelligent People Make Less Effective Leaders?

Highly intelligent people tend to make good progress in the workplace and are seen as fit for leadership roles: overall, smarter is usually associated with success. But if you examine the situation more closely, as... Read more

How to Silence Your Irrationally Harsh Inner Critic

Your harshest critic is often yourself. You might not even realize it, especially as you go around administering fair attention and wise advice to others. Yet anyone listening in on your internal monologue, particula... Read more