Category: Counseling Tribeca
How to Stop the Negative Chatter in Your Head
A neuroscientist explains how to curb unhelpful thoughts
Did you make your New Year’s resolutions?
I hope you put “cognitive reappraisal” on the list. Psychologists use this term to refer to the practice ... Read more
What Is Codependency? Recognizing the Signs
Codependency refers to a mental, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual reliance on a partner, friend, or family member.
“The term was originally coined in the 1950s in the context of Alcoholics Anonymous to supp... Read more
Is It Possible to Have Functional Depression?
There are many misconceptions about what depression looks like. You might envision someone who is too distraught to get out of bed. Or you may imagine someone who isn’t able to work or do activities due to their lo... Read more
What Is Ghosting?
Ghosting is a relatively new colloquial dating term that refers to abruptly cutting off contact with someone without giving that person any warning or explanation for doing so. Even when the person being ghosted reac... Read more
What to Do When You Have No Motivation
Whether you can’t get motivated to clean your house or you just aren’t feeling motivated to lose weight, a lack of motivation can be the biggest obstacle to reaching your goals.
When you have no motivation to ... Read more
Are You in (Sleep) Debt? Here’s How to Dig Yourself Out
Catching up on sleep: how to pay off your ‘sleep debt’ (and why it’s a big deal)
Being in debt is never a great feeling, whether it’s staring at a large credit card balance or dealing with the effects of a... Read more
Overconfidence in one’s predictions, knowledge, or ability can be hazardous, but so can needless self-doubt. What we all need is calibration. In his new book, Perfectly Confident, Don Moore, head of the Moore Accur... Read more
It’s Convenient, help is available at your time and place.
Providing the same treatment as in person therapy sessions. Telehealth Video Therapy Sessions are HIPAA compliant, the simple & secure online counseling... Read more
You’re Only as Old as You Feel
Simply asking people how old they feel may tell you a lot about their health and well-being.
Not long ago, Stephanie Heller, a New Jersey realtor, was leaving her gym after a workout when she noticed a woman in th... Read more
When Your Marriage Needs Counseling
If your marriage is having problems, do not wait too long to seek professional help. Marriage counseling (also called couples' therapy) can be very effective, especially if couples seek it out sooner rather than late... Read more
When Efforts To Eat ‘Clean’ Become An Unhealthy Obsession
Whether it's gluten-free, dairy-free, raw food, or all-organic, many people these days are committed to so-called "clean eating" — the idea that choosing only whole foods in their natural state and avoiding process... Read more
Stressed Out By Politics? Here’s How To Keep Caring Without Losing Your Cool
The political headlines have been relentless lately. Calls for impeaching the president. Debates over health care, immigration and gun control. Fights over who tweeted what.
Discussions of these issues can quickly... Read more
How to Find Your Happily Ever After City
The United States is “one of the most mobile countries in the world,” according to a 2013 Gallup survey in which nearly 1 in 4 adults reported that they had moved within a five-year window. Some motivating factor... Read more
How Parents Can Stay Close to Grown-Up Children
Many parents sending kids off to college worry that their time as a family is over. But that isn’t always the case these days.
The Sugerman family’s trip to Southern Utah this past May involved a treacherous d... Read more
Optimists For The Win: Finding The Bright Side Might Help You Live Longer
Good news for the cheery: A Boston study published this month suggests people who tend to be optimistic are likelier than others to live to be 85 years old or more.
That finding was independent of other factors th... Read more
Women May Be More Adept Than Men At Discerning Pain
The pathway to opioid abuse for women often starts with a prescription from the doctor's office. One reason is that women are more likely than men to seek help for pain.
Pain researchers say that not only do women... Read more
Got Pain? A Virtual Swim With Dolphins May Help Melt It Away
Virtual reality is not new. But, as people search for alternative ways to manage pain — and reduce reliance on pills — VR is attracting renewed attention.
Imagine, for a moment you've been transported to a sun... Read more
The Swaying Power Of Scented Spaces Isn’t Always Right Under Our Nose
There's a new smell tingling tourists' noses in the Big Apple, far above the trash bag-lined sidewalks — and this scent is by design.
Atop One World Trade Center, New York City's tallest building, a fragrance ca... Read more
How to Renew Your Compassion in the Face of Suffering
Mass suffering can make us feel helpless. Focusing on solutions, rather than emotions, may be the way out.
If you’re concerned about the humane treatment of migrants arriving at our borders, it’s easy to feel ... Read more
Getting a Good Night’s Sleep Without Drugs
Alternatives to prescription drugs for insomnia offer better, safer and more long-lasting solutions, experts say.
Shakespeare wisely recognized that sleep “knits up the ravell’d sleave of care” and relieves ... Read more
‘Guilty’ Pleasures? No Such Thing
Go forth and read that trashy novel
We know them when we see them: The TV shows and movies we love, even though we just know they’re bad. The trashy books we simply can’t put down. The awful earworms we hate t... Read more
How Our Body ‘Listens’ to Vibrations
We all know the feeling of a mobile phone vibrating in our hands when announcing an incoming call. If we perceive these vibrations so clearly, it is due to specialized receptors that transduce them into neural signal... Read more
How Hard Is It to Become an Expert at Something?
Expertise is what separates the amateur from the true master in almost any field, from medicine to science to sports to artistic performance. The idea of whether experts are "born" or "made" relates to the age-old na... Read more
The Science Of Smiles, Real And Fake
The notion that you can smile your way to happiness is an enduring one.
Back in the 1800s, Charles Darwin was among the first to come up with what modern scientists further developed into the "facial feedback hypo... Read more
What Are the Signs of a Midlife Crisis?
Midlife can be the unhappiest time in a person's life
People who are having a midlife crisis are thought to be struggling with their own mortality and, somewhere during midlife, they ditch some of their responsibi... Read more
Does Drinking Coffee Actually Improve Memory?
Coffee drinkers often wonder if caffeine can improve their memory. That's because many who religiously consume the beverage notice that they seem more alert when they've had coffee. One coffee drinker, who described ... Read more
Not-So-Social Media: Why People Have Stopped Talking On Phones
Emma Wisniewski felt exposed. The New York-based actress had moments where she had to open up in a way that made her feel particularly vulnerable.
She had to talk on the phone. In front of people — her fellow ac... Read more
Can Mindfulness Treat Chronic Back Pain?
A recent study reveals 8 weeks of mindfulness-based and cognitive therapies (MBCT) may ease chronic low back pain.
If you’ve ever had back pain, you know it’s one of the worst kinds of pain to have. Chronic lo... Read more
Never assume you have the slightest clue what anyone else is feeling
We even smell things differently. Does this mean no amount of talking will ever clear things up?
Every now and then, ambling through the day, you’re reminded with a jolt that the inner lives of others are an utt... Read more
How The Brain Shapes Pain And Links Ouch With Emotion
When Sterling Witt was a teenager in Missouri, he was diagnosed with scoliosis. Before long, the curvature of his spine started causing chronic pain.
It was "this low-grade kind of menacing pain that ran through my ... Read more
We Gossip About 52 Minutes A Day, Not Be As Toxic As It Sounds
Almost everyone gossips.
And a new study finds that people spend about 52 minutes per day, on average, talking to someone about someone else who is not present.
But here's the surprise: Despite the assumption t... Read more
Floating Away Your Anxiety And Stress
When I mentioned to a friend that my baseline neurosis has evolved from daily stress into anxiety, her response was – "Go for a float!"
Yes — spend an hour in a dark, soundproof room floating in a ... Read more
How to Stop Your Smartphone from Hurting Your Health
You can manage your technology use to protect your health and happiness.
As psychologist Chris Willard often says, our phones can be our greatest enemy or greatest friend. While they can save us time and energy, e... Read more
Stress Takes A Toll On Health And Family
Stress is part of the human condition, unavoidable and even necessary to a degree. But too much stress can be toxic — even disabling.
And there's a lot of toxic stress out there.
More than 1 in every 4 Americ... Read more
Empathy seems like a good quality in human beings. Pure and simple.
It allows us to consider the perspective of others — to put ourselves in their shoes and imagine their experiences. From that empathetic vantage point, only good things can come, right?
Not necessarily, accordin... Read more
Researchers Discover ‘Anxiety Cells’ In The Brain
Scientists have found specialized brain cells in mice that appear to control anxiety levels.
The finding, reported Wednesday in the journal Neuron, could eventually lead to better treatments for anxiety disorders,... Read more
Are We Ready For An Implant That Can Change Our Moods
Our thoughts and fears, movements and sensations all arise from the electrical blips of billions of neurons in our brain. Streams of electricity flow through neural circuits to govern these actions of the brain and b... Read more
Strategize To Catch Up On Lost Sleep
There are lots of reasons why many of us don't get the recommended seven hours or more of sleep each night. Travel schedules, work deadlines, TV bingeing and — a big one — having young children all take a toll.
... Read more
Misophonia: When Life’s Noises Drive You Mad
For 18-year-old high school senior Ellie Rapp of Pittsburgh, the sound of her family chewing their dinner can be ... unbearable.
"My heart starts to pound. I go one of two ways. I either start to cry or I just get... Read more
Do All Hipsters Look Alike?
The hipster effect: Why anti-conformists always end up looking the same. Science explains why efforts to reject the mainstream merely result in a new conformity.
You’ve probably seen this effect—perhaps you ar... Read more
Are All Our Organs Vital?
Even the appendix and tonsils are less expendable than we thought.
Medicine has not always shown a lot of respect for the human body. Just think about the ghoulish disregard early surgeons had for our corporeal in... Read more
What An Insect Can Teach Us About Adapting To Stress
What if we told you that you could learn a lot about handling adversity from the life of a bug? In their explorations of humans and how we interact with the world around us, the team that makes NPR's Invisibilia stum... Read more
How to Identify a Malignant Narcissist
While narcissism has been a personality trait that has been around for a long time, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and narcissistic personality traits have been in the public eye more often in recent years. ... Read more
Ghosting: What It Is, Why It Hurts, and What You Can Do About It
You’re in a relationship. Suddenly, and maybe without any warning at all, your partner seems to have disappeared. No calls, no text messages, no connection made on social media, no responses to any of your messages... Read more
Searching For Anger’s Animal Roots
For comedian Lewis Black, anger is a job.
Black is famous for his rants about stuff he finds annoying or unfair or just plain infuriating.
Onstage, he often looks ready for a fight. He leans forward. He shouts.... Read more
Got Anger? Try Naming It To Tame It
Over the past three years, I've had one major goal in my personal life: To stop being so angry.
Anger has been my emotional currency. I grew up in an angry home. Door slamming and phone throwing were basic means o... Read more
How the Glorification of Busyness Impacts Our Well-Being
Being excessively busy can get in the way of you living your best life
How many times have you started your day looking at a long to-do list, checking numerous emails, forecasting multiple appointments and obligat... Read more
What Does FOMO Mean and How Do I Deal With It?
FOMO, or "fear of missing out," is a real phenomenon that is becoming increasingly common and can cause significant stress in your life. It can affect just about anyone, but some people are at greater risk. Here is... Read more
The Unbearable Heaviness of Clutter
A cluttered home can be a stressful home, researchers are learning.
Do you have a clutter problem?
If you have to move things around in order to accomplish a task in your home or at your office or you feel over... Read more
Channeling The Pain Of Depression Into Photography
In a particularly difficult season of depression, photography was one of the tools Tara Wray used to cope.
"Just forcing myself to get out of my head and using the camera to do that is, in a way, a therapeutic t... Read more
If You Feel Thankful, Write It Down. It’s Good For Your Health
Over this past year, lifestyle blogger Aileen Xu has kept a monthly gratitude list.
Sometimes it was the big stuff: "I'm grateful that my family is so understanding. I'm grateful so many people care."
And somet... Read more
The Top Insights from the “Science of a Meaningful Life” in 2018
There is plenty of science to convince us that social connection is key to well-being. But relationships are complicated, bringing good and bad into our lives. This year’s top insights speak to the practical forces... Read more
Could Depression Be Caused By An Infection?
Sometime around 1907, well before the modern randomized clinical trial was routine, American psychiatrist Henry Cotton began removing decaying teeth from his patients in hopes of curing their mental disorders. If tha... Read more
Scientists Improve Mood By Stimulating A Brain Area Above The Eyes
There's new evidence that mild pulses of electricity can relieve depression — if they reach the right target in the brain.
A study of 25 people with epilepsy found that those who had symptoms of depression felt ... Read more
Breathing Through the Nose May Offer Unique Brain Benefits
Folklore, spiritual traditions and even mothers have for ages drawn an implicit connection between respiration and state of mind: Breathe in deeply through your nose, we are told, to clarify thoughts, achieve serenit... Read more
Do You Really Know Why You Do What You Do?
Experimental psychologist Petter Johansson researches choice blindness -- a phenomenon where we convince ourselves that we're getting what we want, even when we're not. In an eye-opening talk, he shares experiments (... Read more
Can’t Stop Worrying? Try Tetris To Ease Your Mind
If you've ever played Tetris — whether it was at an old-school Gameboy, or just on your iPhone — then you know: It's 8-bit enchantment.
"Years of my life were lost disappearing into a game of Tetris on my Nint... Read more
We Just ‘Fell Back’ An Hour, Tips To Stay Healthy During Dark Days
When it comes to turning back the clocks on our devices, technology has us covered. Our smartphones automatically adjust.
But our internal clocks aren't as easy to re-program. And this means that the time shift in... Read more
A Toolkit for Unhooking from Criticism
Fact: Work Brings Criticism. Here's how to detach the emotion from the comments.
It’s happened to all of us: feedback on our creative work has, at one time or another, caused us to get stuck. Maybe a client hate... Read more
Own Your Behaviors, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success
This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take that negativity home with us and vice versa. It is of paramou... Read more
7 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Mental Focus
Staying on task can be difficult, but it can be particularly challenging when you are surrounded by constant distraction. In today's always-connected world, diversions are nothing more than a click away. Even during ... Read more
A Brain Scientist Explains How She Stays Mentally Fit
As a specialist in Alzheimer's prevention, Jessica Langbaum knows that exercising her mental muscles can help keep her brain sharp.
But Langbaum, who holds a doctorate in psychiatric epidemiology, has no formal me... Read more
Can a Mood-Predicting Smartphone App Work?
Evidence behind a digital tech intervention remains scant
In the world of digital health, Silicon Valley-based Mindstrong stands out. It has a star-studded team and tens of millions in venture capital funding, in... Read more
Are You Struggling With Secondhand Stress?
Yes, stress is contagious. Here's how to keep it from spreading.
Rushing around the office or at the shopping mall, tapping a pen on a table, finishing other people's sentences, sighing repeatedly, slamming down t... Read more
The Benefits of PTSD Group Therapy
When it comes to seeking out treatment for PTSD (or any other psychological difficulty), you may wonder if it would be helpful to attend group therapy. There are many benefits to attending a group, and in many cases, g... Read more
On The Virtues of Sleep
In the sixth century, Pope Gregory I compiled an infamous list of seven deadly sins. Of these seven, sloth is the only sin that shares its name in English with an animal. But are these curious animals truly guilty of... Read more
Benefits of Group Therapy for Mental Health Treatment
Being part of a group can offer insights that you may be too close to your situation to see. Discover why participating could be a helpful type of treatment for you.
At first, the idea of participating in group th... Read more
Why You Should Take Time to Mourn During Career Transitions
Grief is common when you leave a job you love.
On my last day in the newsroom at a North Carolina alt-weekly, I found myself choking back tears. For the first time in almost a decade, my desk was completely clean... Read more
Mono no Aware: The Transience of Life
Mono-no-aware is a challenging perspective to put into words successfully; it can be literally translated to “the ahhness of things” or to “the bittersweet poignancy of things.” What comes most easily to mind... Read more
The Theory of Mind Myth
‘I don’t understand what you think that I’m saying.’
(Marital argument, overheard at a local diner.)
Following a mass shooting, the gunman’s next-door neighbours are stunned, and tell reporters that he ... Read more
Can Mindfulness Help Your Brain Cope with Rejection?
A new study finds that rejection is less distressing to mindful people (and their brains).
One of your best friends hosts a party without inviting you; your romantic partner seems oblivious to your attempts at con... Read more
Mood Changes To Muddled Thinking, Might Be Dehydration
Was it hard to concentrate during that long meeting? Does the crossword seem a little tougher? You could be mildly dehydrated.
A growing body of evidence finds that being just a little dehydrated is tied to a rang... Read more
Hate Where You Live? So Does Everyone Else
I can’t help being suspicious of anyone who claims to be entirely happy with their surroundings.
According to a recent survey, more than a third of New Yorkers want to leave New York. Then again, as th... Read more
Heat Making You Lethargic? Research Shows It Can Slow Your Brain
Can't cool off this summer? Heat waves can slow us down in ways we may not realize.
New research suggests heat stress can muddle our thinking, making simple math a little harder to do.
"There's evidence that ou... Read more
Are Work Friendships a Good Thing?
We tend to avoid work friendships, but connecting with colleagues can ultimately make us happier and more productive.
How often have you had the following conversation at work?
How are you?
It... Read more
The Psychology Of Dealing With Change
Many people spend a great deal of effort trying to avoid change, but it will inevitably catch up to you. Whether it's starting a new job, moving to a different city, the end of a relationship, or a loss of a loved on... Read more
Emotional Resilience Is a Trait You Can Develop
Those with a higher degree of emotional resilience are able to handle the stresses that come with daily life more effectively and calmly. They are also able to manage crises more easily. Fortunately, emotional resili... Read more
Opening Up About Depression And Suicide Could Help Someone Else
Fifteen years ago, I broke up with my very nice boyfriend and plunged headlong into a dark depression. I loved Marc but had known from the beginning that he wasn't the man for me.
I still believe that breaking up ... Read more
Common Medications Linked To Depression
If you take Prilosec or Zantac for acid reflux, a beta blocker for high blood pressure, or Xanax for anxiety, you may be increasing your risk of depression.
More than 200 common medications sold in the U.S. includ... Read more
Imposter Syndrome Hits Men Harder Than Women
The idea that some of us experience “imposter syndrome” was first mooted in the 1970s by two US clinical psychologists who noticed the preponderance of high-achieving women who felt they had somehow cheated or ... Read more
How to Build a More Forgiving Community
As groups, organizations, and nations, we can find love and healing after being wronged.
There are many ways to hurt another person. There are also many ways to forgive that hurt.
On an individual level, we can... Read more
What Is Consciousness?
Scientists are beginning to unravel a mystery that has long vexed philosophers
Consciousness is everything you experience. It is the tune stuck in your head, the sweetness of chocolate mousse, the throbbing pain o... Read more
At the end of the day, escape, don’t marinate in politics
One of the many baffling aspects of this baffling year has been the way people keep recommending cultural products – films, novels, TV shows – on the grounds that they’ve got something to say about “the curre... Read more
The Secrets to a Happy Life, From a Harvard Study
What does it take to live a good life?
Surveys show that most young adults believe that obtaining wealth and fame are keys to a happy life. But a long-running study out of Harvard suggests that one of the most imp... Read more
The Negative Effects of Feeling Out of the Loop
The Psychology of Popular Media Culture
Celebrities are people famous for being famous. Have you ever given any thought to how it happens that pop-culture figures become so well-known, even when they have risen to... Read more
Can Government Policies Make Us Happier?
World happiness expert Richard Layard explains why policymakers need to focus on improving mental health and human relationships, not just the economy.
The World Happiness Report has been published every year sinc... Read more
How to Build a Relationship Based on Interdependence
Most of us value connection with others, especially in our romantic relationships. In fact, we are wired for connection and it allows us to create bonds and intimacy with our partner. The success of long-term relatio... Read more
Addicted to digital technology? Here’s how to beat the habit
Banning yourself can have the perverse effect of making your phone more enticing. What you need to do is make it boring
Recently, I bought a piece of digital technology to help me conquer my low-level addiction ... Read more
Do the Patterns in Your Past Predict Your Future?
On paper, Shon Hopwood's life doesn't make a lot of sense, not even to him.
"I don't have a great excuse as to why I did these things. And everybody always wants that," he tells me. "It closes the circle for peo... Read more
7 Creative Insights To Give Your Career a Boost This Very Second
Catchy headline, huh? We swear it's true, too.
There’s gobs of merit in chiseling away at one of your bad habits for months in order to make a long-term improvement to some aspect of your career. In fact, we cha... Read more
How To Make Stress Your Friend
Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you belie... Read more
New Study Finds Tea Enhances Creativity
A study in the journal Food Quality and Preference suggests that tea-drinking benefits divergent thinking, a key element of creativity that’s associated with generating ideas or identifying patterns. The research... Read more
How do you know if you’re a jerk?
I’m sure you don’t feel like a jerk. Nobody does. Few of us like to believe anything negative about ourselves.
Do you think it’s possible you might be a jerk? It’s a rude question, I know, but not a totall... Read more
Smart or Determined? Examining The Role of Motivation in IQ Tests
Intelligence tests are meant to tell you something about a person’s inherent abilities. But what if the results are distorted by the motivation to perform well? That would undermine the tests’ validity and have i... Read more
Why Change is Your Greatest Ally
Changes often hurt when they first emerge, but resisting them goes against the way the world works. In my teens and 20s I lived in a spiritual community where days and nights of ordered living, rules, and obedience m... Read more
Is Your Child Lying to You? That’s Good
Should parents be troubled when their kids start to deceive them?
Odds are, most of us would say yes. We believe honesty is a moral imperative, and we try to instill this belief in our children. Classic morality t... Read more
Your Good Friend During Flu Season
Lately I've been thinking a lot about the Liberian elbow bump.
When Ebola overtook the West African country in 2014, many people were afraid to shake hands and embrace in the customary way. That's understandable... Read more
Yale’s Most Popular Class Ever: Happiness
On Jan. 12, a few days after registration opened at Yale for Psyc 157, Psychology and the Good Life, roughly 300 people had signed up. Within three days, the figure had more than doubled. After three more days, about 1,2... Read more
Maybe You’d Exercise More If It Didn’t Feel So Crappy
Some people love to exercise. But plenty more do not, and urging them on with information about how healthy exercise can be hasn’t exactly been shown to sway the masses. Only about half of Americans report meetin... Read more
When worry becomes a problem
Feeling afraid about life issues is common as you age, but if it takes over your life, you may have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD).
Everyone feels afraid or worried at times, but if these feelings begin to take ov... Read more