Category: Relationship Counseling

Why Change is Your Greatest Ally

Changes often hurt when they first emerge, but resisting them goes against the way the world works. In my teens and 20s I lived in a spiritual community where days and nights of ordered living, rules, and obedience m... Read more

Is Your Child Lying to You? That’s Good

Should parents be troubled when their kids start to deceive them? Odds are, most of us would say yes. We believe honesty is a moral imperative, and we try to instill this belief in our children. Classic morality t... Read more

Your Good Friend During Flu Season

Lately I've been thinking a lot about the Liberian elbow bump. When Ebola overtook the West African country in 2014, many people were afraid to shake hands and embrace in the customary way. That's understandable... Read more

Yale’s Most Popular Class Ever: Happiness

On Jan. 12, a few days after registration opened at Yale for Psyc 157, Psychology and the Good Life, roughly 300 people had signed up. Within three days, the figure had more than doubled. After three more days, about 1,2... Read more

Maybe You’d Exercise More If It Didn’t Feel So Crappy

Some people love to exercise. But plenty more do not, and urging them on with information about how healthy exercise can be hasn’t exactly been shown to sway the masses. Only about half of Americans report meetin... Read more

When worry becomes a problem

Feeling afraid about life issues is common as you age, but if it takes over your life, you may have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). Everyone feels afraid or worried at times, but if these feelings begin to take ov... Read more

Having A Vivid Imagination With OCD

At the heart of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) are the intrusive, often distressing, thoughts. My skin is dirty… I must have left the gas on and my house will burn down… But why do some obsessive thoughts co... Read more

Am I the worst for looking at other people’s texts on the subway?

Imagine being eaten by a cave bear. Or a saber-toothed cat. Imagine, with that first gash of claw or incisor, instantaneously transitioning from being a person to being food. Imagine what it feels like, the first, dang... Read more

Nobody’s Better Than You

Many years ago, when I was young and things didn’t go my way, my mother used to look at me with a fierce and piteous expression and tell me: “Nobody’s better than you.” My mother is the granddaughter of Je... Read more

Why Your Brain Has Trouble Bailing Out Of A Bad Plan

You're in your car, heading for an intersection. The light turns yellow, so you decide to hit the gas. Then you see a police car. Almost instantly, you know that stomping on the accelerator is a big mistake. But t... Read more