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Why Letting Go of Control Can Help You Enjoy Life

Feeling the need to be in control is natural. It's something we all inherently want, and we feel best when we know exactly what is going on in all the different areas of our lives. It's important to realize, though, ... Read more

Why Perfectionism Stops Us from Creating New Habits

When we decide to create a new habit — exercise, healthy eating, meditation, writing — we can get excited and optimistic, and have an idea of how it will go perfectly. This is such a hopeful time! Unfortunatel... Read more

What Is Conventional Wisdom?

Conventional Wisdom Conventional wisdom refers to commonly held and widely accepted ideas and beliefs. It can encompass ideas that are generally held by the majority of people as well as long-accepted expert opini... Read more

The Dangers of Bottling Up Our Emotions

Keeping our emotions close to our chest can often feel safer, but it isn’t always the healthiest way to move through life. This approach prevents us from discussing our needs (which can turn into a cyclical issue) ... Read more

How to Be Happy Again

Finding New Ways to Be Happy What does it mean to be happy? There are so many ideas and perspectives when it comes to being happy. By definition happy means characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment,... Read more

What to Do When Your Summer Reality Doesn’t Live Up to Expectations

The new normal is coming just in time for a safe and social redo of last year’s isolated summer. With it, the answer to that question is going from a far-off hope to a potential reality. Travel, concerts, partie... Read more

How to Rekindle A Relationship

There are many reasons why you may want to revisit a former relationship. Perhaps you’re seeing your ex in a different light or circumstances have changed in your own life. Maybe you moved back to your hometown and... Read more

Quick Ways To Deal With Sudden Anxiety

If your anxiety is sporadic and getting in the way of your focus or tasks, there are some quick natural remedies that could help you take control of the situation. If your anxiety is focused around a situation, su... Read more

How To Tell Your Friends You’re Depressed

Deciding to tell the people you love that you're struggling with depression is a big step. Not only is it challenging to find the energy to reach out to people, but there are naturally worries about how the news of y... Read more

Common Misconceptions About Psychotherapy

What you can and cannot expect from psychotherapy In my experience consulting with patients who are considering whether or not to pursue psychotherapy to improve their mental health, the path to this decision is a... Read more

Six Ways to Feel Better About Being Single

Sometimes being single can feel freeing or even empowering. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want without having to worry about what your partner is doing. But there are also times when being unattached can... Read more

How to Stop the Negative Chatter in Your Head

A neuroscientist explains how to curb unhelpful thoughts Did you make your New Year’s resolutions? I hope you put “cognitive reappraisal” on the list. Psychologists use this term to refer to the practice ... Read more

What Is Codependency? Recognizing the Signs

Codependency refers to a mental, emotional, physical, and/or spiritual reliance on a partner, friend, or family member. “The term was originally coined in the 1950s in the context of Alcoholics Anonymous to supp... Read more

Is It Possible to Have Functional Depression?

There are many misconceptions about what depression looks like. You might envision someone who is too distraught to get out of bed. Or you may imagine someone who isn’t able to work or do activities due to their lo... Read more

What Is Ghosting?

Ghosting is a relatively new colloquial dating term that refers to abruptly cutting off contact with someone without giving that person any warning or explanation for doing so. Even when the person being ghosted reac... Read more

What to Do When You Have No Motivation

Whether you can’t get motivated to clean your house or you just aren’t feeling motivated to lose weight, a lack of motivation can be the biggest obstacle to reaching your goals. When you have no motivation to ... Read more

Are You in (Sleep) Debt? Here’s How to Dig Yourself Out

Catching up on sleep: how to pay off your ‘sleep debt’ (and why it’s a big deal) Being in debt is never a great feeling, whether it’s staring at a large credit card balance or dealing with the effects of a... Read more

Check Yourself

Overconfidence in one’s predictions, knowledge, or ability can be hazardous, but so can needless self-doubt. What we all need is calibration. In his new book, Perfectly Confident, Don Moore, head of the Moore Accur... Read more

Online Counseling

It’s Convenient, help is available at your time and place. Providing the same treatment as in person therapy sessions. Telehealth Video Therapy Sessions are HIPAA compliant, the simple & secure online counseling... Read more

You’re Only as Old as You Feel

Simply asking people how old they feel may tell you a lot about their health and well-being. Not long ago, Stephanie Heller, a New Jersey realtor, was leaving her gym after a workout when she noticed a woman in th... Read more

When Your Marriage Needs Counseling

If your marriage is having problems, do not wait too long to seek professional help. Marriage counseling (also called couples' therapy) can be very effective, especially if couples seek it out sooner rather than late... Read more

When Efforts To Eat ‘Clean’ Become An Unhealthy Obsession

Whether it's gluten-free, dairy-free, raw food, or all-organic, many people these days are committed to so-called "clean eating" — the idea that choosing only whole foods in their natural state and avoiding process... Read more

Stressed Out By Politics? Here’s How To Keep Caring Without Losing Your Cool

The political headlines have been relentless lately. Calls for impeaching the president. Debates over health care, immigration and gun control. Fights over who tweeted what. Discussions of these issues can quickly... Read more

How to Find Your Happily Ever After City

The United States is “one of the most mobile countries in the world,” according to a 2013 Gallup survey in which nearly 1 in 4 adults reported that they had moved within a five-year window. Some motivating factor... Read more

How Parents Can Stay Close to Grown-Up Children

Many parents sending kids off to college worry that their time as a family is over. But that isn’t always the case these days. The Sugerman family’s trip to Southern Utah this past May involved a treacherous d... Read more

Optimists For The Win: Finding The Bright Side Might Help You Live Longer

Good news for the cheery: A Boston study published this month suggests people who tend to be optimistic are likelier than others to live to be 85 years old or more. That finding was independent of other factors th... Read more

Women May Be More Adept Than Men At Discerning Pain

The pathway to opioid abuse for women often starts with a prescription from the doctor's office. One reason is that women are more likely than men to seek help for pain. Pain researchers say that not only do women... Read more

Got Pain? A Virtual Swim With Dolphins May Help Melt It Away

Virtual reality is not new. But, as people search for alternative ways to manage pain — and reduce reliance on pills — VR is attracting renewed attention. Imagine, for a moment you've been transported to a sun... Read more

The Swaying Power Of Scented Spaces Isn’t Always Right Under Our Nose

There's a new smell tingling tourists' noses in the Big Apple, far above the trash bag-lined sidewalks — and this scent is by design. Atop One World Trade Center, New York City's tallest building, a fragrance ca... Read more

How to Renew Your Compassion in the Face of Suffering

Mass suffering can make us feel helpless. Focusing on solutions, rather than emotions, may be the way out. If you’re concerned about the humane treatment of migrants arriving at our borders, it’s easy to feel ... Read more

Getting a Good Night’s Sleep Without Drugs

Alternatives to prescription drugs for insomnia offer better, safer and more long-lasting solutions, experts say. Shakespeare wisely recognized that sleep “knits up the ravell’d sleave of care” and relieves ... Read more

‘Guilty’ Pleasures? No Such Thing

Go forth and read that trashy novel We know them when we see them: The TV shows and movies we love, even though we just know they’re bad. The trashy books we simply can’t put down. The awful earworms we hate t... Read more

How Our Body ‘Listens’ to Vibrations

We all know the feeling of a mobile phone vibrating in our hands when announcing an incoming call. If we perceive these vibrations so clearly, it is due to specialized receptors that transduce them into neural signal... Read more

How Hard Is It to Become an Expert at Something?

Expertise is what separates the amateur from the true master in almost any field, from medicine to science to sports to artistic performance. The idea of whether experts are "born" or "made" relates to the age-old na... Read more

The Science Of Smiles, Real And Fake

The notion that you can smile your way to happiness is an enduring one. Back in the 1800s, Charles Darwin was among the first to come up with what modern scientists further developed into the "facial feedback hypo... Read more

What Are the Signs of a Midlife Crisis?

Midlife can be the unhappiest time in a person's life People who are having a midlife crisis are thought to be struggling with their own mortality and, somewhere during midlife, they ditch some of their responsibi... Read more

Does Drinking Coffee Actually Improve Memory?

Coffee drinkers often wonder if caffeine can improve their memory. That's because many who religiously consume the beverage notice that they seem more alert when they've had coffee. One coffee drinker, who described ... Read more

Not-So-Social Media: Why People Have Stopped Talking On Phones

Emma Wisniewski felt exposed. The New York-based actress had moments where she had to open up in a way that made her feel particularly vulnerable. She had to talk on the phone. In front of people — her fellow ac... Read more

Can Mindfulness Treat Chronic Back Pain?

A recent study reveals 8 weeks of mindfulness-based and cognitive therapies (MBCT) may ease chronic low back pain. If you’ve ever had back pain, you know it’s one of the worst kinds of pain to have. Chronic lo... Read more

Never assume you have the slightest clue what anyone else is feeling

We even smell things differently. Does this mean no amount of talking will ever clear things up? Every now and then, ambling through the day, you’re reminded with a jolt that the inner lives of others are an utt... Read more

How The Brain Shapes Pain And Links Ouch With Emotion

When Sterling Witt was a teenager in Missouri, he was diagnosed with scoliosis. Before long, the curvature of his spine started causing chronic pain. It was "this low-grade kind of menacing pain that ran through my ... Read more

We Gossip About 52 Minutes A Day, Not Be As Toxic As It Sounds

Almost everyone gossips. And a new study finds that people spend about 52 minutes per day, on average, talking to someone about someone else who is not present. But here's the surprise: Despite the assumption t... Read more

Floating Away Your Anxiety And Stress

When I mentioned to a friend that my baseline neurosis has evolved from daily stress into anxiety, her response was – "Go for a float!" A float? Yes — spend an hour in a dark, soundproof room floating in a ... Read more

How to Stop Your Smartphone from Hurting Your Health

You can manage your technology use to protect your health and happiness. As psychologist Chris Willard often says, our phones can be our greatest enemy or greatest friend. While they can save us time and energy, e... Read more

Stress Takes A Toll On Health And Family

Stress is part of the human condition, unavoidable and even necessary to a degree. But too much stress can be toxic — even disabling. And there's a lot of toxic stress out there. More than 1 in every 4 Americ... Read more

Empathy seems like a good quality in human beings. Pure and simple.

It allows us to consider the perspective of others — to put ourselves in their shoes and imagine their experiences. From that empathetic vantage point, only good things can come, right? Not necessarily, accordin... Read more

Researchers Discover ‘Anxiety Cells’ In The Brain

Scientists have found specialized brain cells in mice that appear to control anxiety levels. The finding, reported Wednesday in the journal Neuron, could eventually lead to better treatments for anxiety disorders,... Read more

Are We Ready For An Implant That Can Change Our Moods

Our thoughts and fears, movements and sensations all arise from the electrical blips of billions of neurons in our brain. Streams of electricity flow through neural circuits to govern these actions of the brain and b... Read more

Strategize To Catch Up On Lost Sleep

There are lots of reasons why many of us don't get the recommended seven hours or more of sleep each night. Travel schedules, work deadlines, TV bingeing and — a big one — having young children all take a toll. ... Read more

Misophonia: When Life’s Noises Drive You Mad

For 18-year-old high school senior Ellie Rapp of Pittsburgh, the sound of her family chewing their dinner can be ... unbearable. "My heart starts to pound. I go one of two ways. I either start to cry or I just get... Read more

Do All Hipsters Look Alike?

The hipster effect: Why anti-conformists always end up looking the same. Science explains why efforts to reject the mainstream merely result in a new conformity. You’ve probably seen this effect—perhaps you ar... Read more

Are All Our Organs Vital?

Even the appendix and tonsils are less expendable than we thought. Medicine has not always shown a lot of respect for the human body. Just think about the ghoulish disregard early surgeons had for our corporeal in... Read more

What An Insect Can Teach Us About Adapting To Stress

What if we told you that you could learn a lot about handling adversity from the life of a bug? In their explorations of humans and how we interact with the world around us, the team that makes NPR's Invisibilia stum... Read more

How to Identify a Malignant Narcissist

While narcissism has been a personality trait that has been around for a long time, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and narcissistic personality traits have been in the public eye more often in recent years. ... Read more

Ghosting: What It Is, Why It Hurts, and What You Can Do About It

You’re in a relationship. Suddenly, and maybe without any warning at all, your partner seems to have disappeared. No calls, no text messages, no connection made on social media, no responses to any of your messages... Read more

Searching For Anger’s Animal Roots

For comedian Lewis Black, anger is a job. Black is famous for his rants about stuff he finds annoying or unfair or just plain infuriating. Onstage, he often looks ready for a fight. He leans forward. He shouts.... Read more

Got Anger? Try Naming It To Tame It

Over the past three years, I've had one major goal in my personal life: To stop being so angry. Anger has been my emotional currency. I grew up in an angry home. Door slamming and phone throwing were basic means o... Read more

How the Glorification of Busyness Impacts Our Well-Being

Being excessively busy can get in the way of you living your best life How many times have you started your day looking at a long to-do list, checking numerous emails, forecasting multiple appointments and obligat... Read more

What Does FOMO Mean and How Do I Deal With It?

FOMO, or "fear of missing out," is a real phenomenon that is becoming increasingly common and can cause significant stress in your life. It can affect just about anyone, but some people are at greater risk. Here is... Read more

The Unbearable Heaviness of Clutter

A cluttered home can be a stressful home, researchers are learning. Do you have a clutter problem? If you have to move things around in order to accomplish a task in your home or at your office or you feel over... Read more

Channeling The Pain Of Depression Into Photography

In a particularly difficult season of depression, photography was one of the tools Tara Wray used to cope. "Just forcing myself to get out of my head and using the camera to do that is, in a way, a therapeutic t... Read more

If You Feel Thankful, Write It Down. It’s Good For Your Health

Over this past year, lifestyle blogger Aileen Xu has kept a monthly gratitude list. Sometimes it was the big stuff: "I'm grateful that my family is so understanding. I'm grateful so many people care." And somet... Read more

The Top Insights from the “Science of a Meaningful Life” in 2018

There is plenty of science to convince us that social connection is key to well-being. But relationships are complicated, bringing good and bad into our lives. This year’s top insights speak to the practical forces... Read more

Could Depression Be Caused By An Infection?

Sometime around 1907, well before the modern randomized clinical trial was routine, American psychiatrist Henry Cotton began removing decaying teeth from his patients in hopes of curing their mental disorders. If tha... Read more

Scientists Improve Mood By Stimulating A Brain Area Above The Eyes

There's new evidence that mild pulses of electricity can relieve depression — if they reach the right target in the brain. A study of 25 people with epilepsy found that those who had symptoms of depression felt ... Read more

Breathing Through the Nose May Offer Unique Brain Benefits

Folklore, spiritual traditions and even mothers have for ages drawn an implicit connection between respiration and state of mind: Breathe in deeply through your nose, we are told, to clarify thoughts, achieve serenit... Read more

Do You Really Know Why You Do What You Do?

Experimental psychologist Petter Johansson researches choice blindness -- a phenomenon where we convince ourselves that we're getting what we want, even when we're not. In an eye-opening talk, he shares experiments (... Read more

Can’t Stop Worrying? Try Tetris To Ease Your Mind

If you've ever played Tetris — whether it was at an old-school Gameboy, or just on your iPhone — then you know: It's 8-bit enchantment. "Years of my life were lost disappearing into a game of Tetris on my Nint... Read more

We Just ‘Fell Back’ An Hour, Tips To Stay Healthy During Dark Days

When it comes to turning back the clocks on our devices, technology has us covered. Our smartphones automatically adjust. But our internal clocks aren't as easy to re-program. And this means that the time shift in... Read more

A Toolkit for Unhooking from Criticism

Fact: Work Brings Criticism. Here's how to detach the emotion from the comments. It’s happened to all of us: feedback on our creative work has, at one time or another, caused us to get stuck. Maybe a client hate... Read more

Own Your Behaviors, Master Your Communication, Determine Your Success

This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take that negativity home with us and vice versa. It is of paramou... Read more

7 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Mental Focus

Staying on task can be difficult, but it can be particularly challenging when you are surrounded by constant distraction. In today's always-connected world, diversions are nothing more than a click away. Even during ... Read more

A Brain Scientist Explains How She Stays Mentally Fit

As a specialist in Alzheimer's prevention, Jessica Langbaum knows that exercising her mental muscles can help keep her brain sharp. But Langbaum, who holds a doctorate in psychiatric epidemiology, has no formal me... Read more

Can a Mood-Predicting Smartphone App Work?

Evidence behind a digital tech intervention remains scant In the world of digital health, Silicon Valley-based Mindstrong stands out. It has a star-studded team and tens of millions in venture capital funding, in... Read more

Are You Struggling With Secondhand Stress?

Yes, stress is contagious. Here's how to keep it from spreading. Rushing around the office or at the shopping mall, tapping a pen on a table, finishing other people's sentences, sighing repeatedly, slamming down t... Read more

The Benefits of PTSD Group Therapy

When it comes to seeking out treatment for PTSD (or any other psychological difficulty), you may wonder if it would be helpful to attend group therapy. There are many benefits to attending a group, and in many cases, g... Read more

On The Virtues of Sleep

In the sixth century, Pope Gregory I compiled an infamous list of seven deadly sins. Of these seven, sloth is the only sin that shares its name in English with an animal. But are these curious animals truly guilty of... Read more

Benefits of Group Therapy for Mental Health Treatment

Being part of a group can offer insights that you may be too close to your situation to see. Discover why participating could be a helpful type of treatment for you. At first, the idea of participating in group th... Read more

Why You Should Take Time to Mourn During Career Transitions

Grief is common when you leave a job you love. On my last day in the newsroom at a North Carolina alt-weekly, I found myself choking back tears. For the first time in almost a decade, my desk was completely clean... Read more

Mono no Aware: The Transience of Life

Mono-no-aware is a challenging perspective to put into words successfully; it can be literally translated to “the ahhness of things” or to “the bittersweet poignancy of things.” What comes most easily to mind... Read more

The Theory of Mind Myth

‘I don’t understand what you think that I’m saying.’ (Marital argument, overheard at a local diner.) Following a mass shooting, the gunman’s next-door neighbours are stunned, and tell reporters that he ... Read more

Can Mindfulness Help Your Brain Cope with Rejection?

A new study finds that rejection is less distressing to mindful people (and their brains). One of your best friends hosts a party without inviting you; your romantic partner seems oblivious to your attempts at con... Read more

Mood Changes To Muddled Thinking, Might Be Dehydration

Was it hard to concentrate during that long meeting? Does the crossword seem a little tougher? You could be mildly dehydrated. A growing body of evidence finds that being just a little dehydrated is tied to a rang... Read more

Hate Where You Live? So Does Everyone Else

  I can’t help being suspicious of anyone who claims to be entirely happy with their surroundings. According to a recent survey, more than a third of New Yorkers want to leave New York. Then again, as th... Read more

Heat Making You Lethargic? Research Shows It Can Slow Your Brain

Can't cool off this summer? Heat waves can slow us down in ways we may not realize. New research suggests heat stress can muddle our thinking, making simple math a little harder to do. "There's evidence that ou... Read more

Are Work Friendships a Good Thing?

We tend to avoid work friendships, but connecting with colleagues can ultimately make us happier and more productive. How often have you had the following conversation at work? How are you? Good. You? Fine. It... Read more

The Psychology Of Dealing With Change

Many people spend a great deal of effort trying to avoid change, but it will inevitably catch up to you. Whether it's starting a new job, moving to a different city, the end of a relationship, or a loss of a loved on... Read more

Emotional Resilience Is a Trait You Can Develop

Those with a higher degree of emotional resilience are able to handle the stresses that come with daily life more effectively and calmly. They are also able to manage crises more easily. Fortunately, emotional resili... Read more

Opening Up About Depression And Suicide Could Help Someone Else

Fifteen years ago, I broke up with my very nice boyfriend and plunged headlong into a dark depression. I loved Marc but had known from the beginning that he wasn't the man for me. I still believe that breaking up ... Read more

Common Medications Linked To Depression

If you take Prilosec or Zantac for acid reflux, a beta blocker for high blood pressure, or Xanax for anxiety, you may be increasing your risk of depression. More than 200 common medications sold in the U.S. includ... Read more

Imposter Syndrome Hits Men Harder Than Women

The idea that some of us experience “imposter syndrome” was first mooted in the 1970s by two US clinical psychologists who noticed the preponderance of high-achieving women who felt they had somehow cheated or ... Read more

How to Build a More Forgiving Community

As groups, organizations, and nations, we can find love and healing after being wronged. There are many ways to hurt another person. There are also many ways to forgive that hurt. On an individual level, we can... Read more

What Is Consciousness?

Scientists are beginning to unravel a mystery that has long vexed philosophers Consciousness is everything you experience. It is the tune stuck in your head, the sweetness of chocolate mousse, the throbbing pain o... Read more

At the end of the day, escape, don’t marinate in politics

One of the many baffling aspects of this baffling year has been the way people keep recommending cultural products – films, novels, TV shows – on the grounds that they’ve got something to say about “the curre... Read more

The Secrets to a Happy Life, From a Harvard Study

What does it take to live a good life? Surveys show that most young adults believe that obtaining wealth and fame are keys to a happy life. But a long-running study out of Harvard suggests that one of the most imp... Read more

The Negative Effects of Feeling Out of the Loop

The Psychology of Popular Media Culture Celebrities are people famous for being famous. Have you ever given any thought to how it happens that pop-culture figures become so well-known, even when they have risen to... Read more

Can Government Policies Make Us Happier?

World happiness expert Richard Layard explains why policymakers need to focus on improving mental health and human relationships, not just the economy. The World Happiness Report has been published every year sinc... Read more

How to Build a Relationship Based on Interdependence

Most of us value connection with others, especially in our romantic relationships. In fact, we are wired for connection and it allows us to create bonds and intimacy with our partner. The success of long-term relatio... Read more

Addicted to digital technology? Here’s how to beat the habit

Banning yourself can have the perverse effect of making your phone more enticing. What you need to do is make it boring Recently, I bought a piece of digital technology to help me conquer my low-level addiction ... Read more

Do the Patterns in Your Past Predict Your Future?

On paper, Shon Hopwood's life doesn't make a lot of sense, not even to him. "I don't have a great excuse as to why I did these things. And everybody always wants that," he tells me. "It closes the circle for peo... Read more

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